Paradox of Resilience

Hai korang..harini pepagi hari dah mengadap pembacaan pasal Paradox of Resillience ( tak sure bm nye apa, tapi kalau digoogle translatekan terkeluarlah perkataan paradoks daya tahan, bunyi cam awkward tapi mungkin betul kot? ke ada sesiapa yang tahu secara tepat? ).

Whatever it is, siapa biasa dengar perkataan paradox ni?

to me, ila biasa baca je, lagi-lagi kalau baca buku penulis yang mengetengahkan penggunaan bahasa melayu yang tahap refer dbp memang wujud perkataan tu. plus, paradox ni perkataan dia unik kan?

Kalau pernah dengar perkataan ironi, for sure korang boleh relatekan dengan perkataan paradox sebab dia lebih kurang sama je maksudnya.

aik, apa ironi? apa paradox ni kan?

based on dbp, kedua-dua perkataan ini merupakan penggunaan bahasa yang maknanya bertentangan dengan kenyataan atau ketidaksesuaian antara harapan dengan kenyataan. Contohnya: "air mata kegembiraan"

Saja nak ambil kata-kata dari penulis bernama Gustavo Razzeti, dia mengatakan bahawa :

" The paradox of resilience: to overcome adversity (kesengsaraan) , you must rescue yourself first. Your mindset, not the event, defines if you will be ‘rescued’ or not. "

Kita selalu meletakkan harapan kepada sesuatu, sedangkan the biggest worry to put adalah pada diri kita sendiri. Do we have what it takes to survive? To thrive from the adversity?

Apa patut kita lakukan apabila berada pada kedudukan genting dalam kehidupan?

Menyerah, bertahan atau berjuang membabi buta?

" Resilience is less about who you are and more about how you think. "

Resilience (daya tahan) adalah suatu bentuk pemikiran dan tindakan yang perlu diasah kemahirannya. Tak asah, tak ada aplikasi, kita takkan nampak impaknya dalam kehidupan.

Resilience juga berkait rapat dengan bagaimana cara kita berdepan dengan trauma?

Do we bear or we overcome it?

Ada yang hidup dengan menyalahkan takdir, dan ada yang memilih untuk confront and live a new life, free from holding the false belief.

Well, you got your answers, and i got mine.

Lets think together.

" When something goes wrong, you must manage to stay in control rather than let the situation take over. Your thoughts, not grit, shape your perceptions and behavior. "

Don't blame the circumstances and take charge on your own destiny, dengan izin ALLAH swt.

Banyak nak share, tapi rasanya cukup at this point dulu. hee..

Yang penting, jom sama-sama kita betulkan mindset kita, betulkan pemahaman kita terhadap perkara-perkara yang berlegar dalam kehidupan sekeliling dan banyakkan mendekatkan diri kepada Pencipta.

I know that I am not the one yang suits to speak on this but all in all, i do struggle in creating my own personality and i believe an adaptive mindset is the best first respondent you can count on.

Salam Jumaat buat semua.

#mayAllahblessus

LOVE, the sacred gem!

i once thought (kinda mindset) that every girl who hold endless beauty shall (must) end her marriage life with someone who is undoubtly handsome, rich (the most eligible bachelor u could ever thought alive), million dollars(ringgit) assets, muscular, perfect abs and love her eternally, cherish her with beautiful moments, shower her with thousands luxurious dates in expensive restaurant, with all dresses and tux suits, with all bodyguards who wear black spectacles that never let you out by open the car with your own bare hands..
i once thought how beautiful fantasies can be in real life..

little did i know, that loves doesnt exist along material, i mean material is just an outsource.. it comes with offer and deals. you make the deals breach, and thats where your life become upside down.

love will never become trading items.
it sacred and powerful.
it place many emotions.
your happiness, trust, determination, sacrifice,  freedom, desire, hope, ambition, possesive, lust and so much more..
but to live with person just because things along them, will never make sense.
No fluttering heart just a head full of game plans..

love is not about showering materials besides you,
its about commitment to get to know each other, lowering gaze from outsiders opposite sex, tolerate the difference, clear conversation, give proper time and space , not following theories but just let it float and develop your feelings.

you must believe that falling in love on the first sight were exist but it takes forever to know about someone.

no rush.
take your time.
give the chances and let Allah shows you the right path.

Love because someone are deserve to feel your love.

yours truly,
miss D!

GANTUNG by Nadia Khan (novel vs the series)

Assalamualaikum wbt
Holla! Haha.
Actually, ada up kat instagram pasal review novel Gantung vs the series ni tapi limit lah. Tak puas hati betul sebab tak dapat nak elaborate more.
Ni kira sharing dari awal review dan sambungannya.
Review ni expectationnya : korang dah tengok spoiler dekat ig page,  trailer atau dah tengok atau dah baca pasal cerita Gantung tapi blur and tak faham. .Haha..

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Gantung version novel dengan the series ada perbezaan dari sudut pembawakan cerita tapi  tak lari jauh teruk dari storyline asal. .
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Kalau tengok the series, obviously boleh predict yang Randy Pangalila aka Gibran(Gibbs) adalah main male lead dalam cerita ni tapi for me the main male lead kalau baca dalam novel adalah Ikmal Amry aka Raymond de Silva(Ray)/Khalil Abdullah.
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Ada beberapa scene yang ditambah dalam the series yang tak diceritakan pun dalam novel, and ada beberapa watak dalam novel yang tak diwujudkan pun dalam the series, mungkin sebab nak jaga kesinambungan jalan cerita kot. Memandangkan taknak hambar dan menyulitkan pemahaman penonton.
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Back to the novel version, kena fahamkan yang plot penceritaan dia berkaitan 10 tahun lepas iaitu tahun 2011 dan tahun semasa 2021.
Phewww! Mula-mula clueless kot. Siapa lak watak Jeremy, Lina, Khalil dan cikgu psiko masa chapter keberapa tah. Tapi makin lama, makin jelas and boleh agak siapa yang dimaksudkan berdasarkan cara diorang converse and interpret the situation.
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Cuma dalam the series this situation doesnt exist at all sebab cerita dia tamat dekat part yang Deepa watak yang diubah nama kepada Ratna dalam the series aka dijumpai menggantung diri dekat dalam auditorium tapi dalam masa yang sama secara misterinya sedang berjumpa dengan Gibbs. lol..
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Kalau di sambung lagi, mengikut novel tak lama lps kejadian Deepa gantung diri, ada suatu kejadian besar dan menggemparkan berlaku dalam bilik dorm Gibss dan KJ (dilakonkan oleh Brandon Salim). Time tu diorang lepak sekali dengan Troll n Ray santai², borak pasal the  musketeer code tiba² ada dengar orang ketuk pintu.
Gibbs pergi bukakkan. Diorang takde expect apa pun tapi terpacul seorang lelaki.
Dia tanya simple je, ' Siapa Gibran Tan Sri Ahmad Zahid? '
Gibbs jawablah dia, tiba-tiba lelaki tu acu pistol tembak perut dia. Yang KJ pun terus pergi dekat Gibbs, and nak seranglah lelaki tu tapi dia pulak kena tembak tepat dekat dada,  Troll pun serang,  kena tembak jugak dekat perut.  KJ meninggal serta merta. Troll dengan Gibbs cedera parah & mati masa otw pegi hospital.
The only one yang alive?
Ray!
Gila trauma beb. Maunya tak waras kawan tu dibuatnya bila menyaksikan kematian kawan-kawan depan mata.
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All in all ,cerita ni mengisahkan rencah kehidupan remaja yang rosak akhlak , seks bebas, tak hormat guru ,rasuah ,kuasa,fame. Cuma yang menjadikan ia menarik adalah friendship diorang,  bromance yang natural . Plus bila Gibbs break the Musketeer Code and bercinta dengan Farah,roomate Deepa/Ratna.
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Paling syok kalau dia wrap cerita ni dengan masukkan elemen keinsafan dan agama .Kaw beb .Kau mesti rasa takut kalau mati dalam keadaan aib atau mati mengejut tak sempat mengucap.
Allahu..

obsessive

sometimes, most person had become too obsessive (in noun) especially in adoring someone until they become too blind in doing the rational statement evaluation of whatever the people (they adore) had speak it out.
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people have flaws. none of us are perfect.
so the wisdom. not all wisdom are (for me) perfectly correct or relevant to believe..
wisdom is the thought by the people, based on his personal experience, his life journey, his observation, his judgement..

however, it has no wrong if you agree with his wisdom..thats the matter of acceptance and mutual understanding..
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i do adore some specific people, by following their own social accounts, their websites, try to immerse in their world of perspective, but ya, there will always have contradiction opinion between mine and them.

thus,
adoring is not a big problem.
what matters is rational evaluation from us.

hey i like Neelofa.
i just don't agree with her statements during Forbes Asia Campaign.

health supplement

my sincere review about this.
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skincare doesnt help much if you never try to change your lifestyle habit especially when it comes to food consumption.
we ate too many calories, fats and unhealthy foods almost everyday! Uh-huh.
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by having good skin, it reduce your stress. haha (read : me was so stress looking at the mirror and try to pop out the acne).
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but actually my highlighted point here doesnt speak on outer layer of skin only, i want you to know that it such a wasting if we have lots of money but often fallen sick.
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Live healthier and be happy to explore the world! 😘

#istartdiet
#please
#noexcesscalories
#iateketupatlontongkuahlodeh
#dontruinmydiet
#dietdoesntmeannoteatingatall
#EATCLEAN
#Tamargo
#chewabletablet
#datesandgoatmilk

malaysia

Hows your merdeka day today, Malaysian?
Since today is the same day of Arafah, so all of us (read : family members) are fasting and not going anywhere. Haha.. No FREE MILO hunting lol. of course no McD.
got a nap, while mak ayah went to pasar (they love to go there by moto, so we just stay at home hahaahhaha) and mak had full planning menu list to cook for AidilAdha Eid. cook-enthusiast! she cooked everyday and never getting bored. And we love to eat eat eat.. Oh Lord!
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Today, 31st August and of course as Malaysian, this is our Independence Day! weehooo!!! *excited*
and as Muslim, today is 9 Zulhijjah, its Arafah Day! . Beautiful day, MashaAllah..may Allah swt bless us with His Rahmah. Allahumma Aamiin..
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i'd love to share about Merdeka in this posting.

MERDEKA (in context of peace) :

for me, is the freedom to live without fear (no bombs, explosions, exploitation, terrified when we are inside the house or going out from the house).
merdeka where we never had to endure all the hardships,  the feeling of uncertainty, the insecurity (less worried) like what the ancestors had gone through (during the war times,  been killed,  shots,)
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to gain merdeka,  is not an easy job. the people (back in old time)  need to undergoes war, diplomation,  meetings and signing many agreements to ensure that we are officially free from the terrorist,  colonialist.. They sacrificed their own safety, life for us,  the next generation.
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through this, we can say that , those people
need to unite in order to MERDEKA, cause UNITY is the fundemental of peaceful nation,  so that so us!  we need to unite dear Malaysian.
don't ruin this,  the peaceful and harmony vibes that we have been living for 60 years.
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we must tolerate,  accept and understand..
Even we have different opinions,  perceptions,  perspective among each other.
Cherish and embrace it!
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Love our country and
Happy 'indie'pendence day,  Malaysia.
I love you!

lol, we are having ketupat session 😄😄